How to build good relations with people?

                                                      Building good relations with people    

Kindness and generosity are the key ingredients in the recipe for building a strong and impactful personality. It is very important to develop a sense of thoughtfulness and consideration for others to have more positive and fulfilling relationships with our friends, family, and even strangers.

Here are some habits which you can practice daily to become a better person every day:

1. SMILE MORE 😊:

A huge curve on your face - just a simple engagement of some muscles of your face can make someone’s day! Isn’t it a beautiful thing to observe? It happens in a blink of an eye but its impression may last for years. People always tend to underestimate the power of a smile. But it is the best accessory that one can wear that can be bought for free from the market of your heart!

Some of your mates would be tired enough to smile at you, but you can lend them one of yours. It gives a feeling of being wanted, being noticed, and being loved by those who think they’re not worthy. You are giving a sense of worthiness to people, it’s a great thing to do, innit?

2. Engage in small acts of kindness:

A small act of kindness enriches the other person. They can be very small and also in return they boost your self-esteem. These actions require efforts at first but the efforts are worth it!

You can do these small things like:

Hold the elevator door for someone.           

·       Say words like “I’m there for you” instead of “calm down” to a person who is going through a rough phase in life. 

·       Ask people how are they doing and if they need some help.

·       Always compliment people (be it, strangers).

·       Be kind enough to offer your seat to a person who needs it.

·       Always say ‘thank-you’ for the smallest of things.

·       Feed a stray dog.

·       Provide food to the labor working on a construction site.

·       Be a good listener.

·        Feed the less fortunate ones.

3. LOOK FOR POSITIVE TRAITS IN EVERY PERSON:

Each person you encounter in your life has something to offer you. No one is born with anger, harshness, and arrogance; we all have the same cardinal structure. They develop these vices in the course of their life. Everyone has basic goodness that lies veiled somewhere in their heart, your task is to unveil those virtues and know the person for what they are. It can so happen that a person can be arrogant but at the same time, he can be helping too. So, embrace the virtues of people rather than their vices.

What I personally do is I make a list with two columns and map out the things that I like about that person and things that I don’t. I always end up liking the virtues better because they always overpower the vices.

4. LEARN TO FORGIVE:

We always tend to hold onto grudges, but grudges do not affect the other person as much as it affects you! Hate makes you hollow, frustrated, and angry.

You are only harming yourself!

Learn to forgive. You can maybe write a letter to a person you want to forgive. You can write like this:

Dear ____,

(Your complain)

And at the end just write “It’s fine, I have I big heart so that is why I forgive you”

And then tear the paper, eliminate the hatred and throw it away!

5. TRY TO UNDERSTAND PEOPLE:

If you want to be understood, you have to understand.

It happens many times that if a person doesn’t pick up your call you take them as to be rude, but we never think that the person might be going through some serious life crisis or might just be away from his phone for that matter. We should always learn to give the benefit of the doubt.

“JUDGING IS FOR THE WEAK AND UNDERSTANDING IS FOR THE STRONG”

Try to understand that what a person might be going through before you judge them, which takes me to the next point.

6. NEVER JUDGE AT FIRST SIGHT:

“A RICH HEART CAN BE UNDER A POOR COAT”. Just remember the first time you met your current best friend; you might have judged him/her by their looks and appearance at your first encounter and now they’re your best friend! Because you got to know them well and eventually vibed.  

We judge people based on our instincts and you are mistaken if you think instincts are spontaneous; they are a byproduct of our past experiences with different people. But just like our fingerprints, every person is unique and it is not fair to judge anyone based on your preconceived notions.

7. DON’T NEGLECT YOUR CLOSE ONES:

Many times, we don’t pay attention to the people who are close to us like our friends, parents, grandparents, loved ones, etc. because we are with them all the time, we often fail to acknowledge their value in our lives. 

Do small things to show them love, like:

·         Bring them flowers.

·          Tell them their importance in your life.

·          Try to remember even the smallest of     things about them; that makes them       feel special.

·           Spend quality time with them.

·           Listen to them; make them feel that        they've heard.

“DO THINGS FOR PEOPLE NOT BECAUSE OF WHO THEY ARE OR WHAT THEY DO IN RETURN, BUT BECAUSE OF WHO YOU ARE”

A little act of kindness can help someone retain their trust in humanity! That sounds big no? But it costs nothing; just a big heart will suffice!

Thank you for reading. If you keep these points in mind you'll be able to build POSITIVE RELATIONS WITH PEOPLE for sure!

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