5 ways to build Self-Confidence

 

                         5 proven Ways to build Self-confidence

Do you ever feel a little jealous when you see someone like Jay Shetty or Ellen DeGeneres speaking so confidently in public? Don’t you think how are they able to do all this with so much grace when you don’t even feel confident enough to put your views in front of two people? 

What we lack here is self-confidence. Self-confidence is not something that comes naturally, it has to be developed over time. It is like a muscle; it emerges when you extensively exercise it.

Self-confidence means having confidence in your skills and abilities. It means you accept yourself as you are. A person who is well versed with his strengths and weaknesses and knows how to handle criticism is said to have an unshakable personality.

Here are five ways to build self-confidence:

1.   Communicate: 

Speaking in public, talking to strangers or any supreme personality can kick in the feelings of shyness and self-consciousness and it is normal to feel this way in the beginning. The only way to overcome these feelings is to start

engaging with more and more people. Seize every opportunity to communicate, as it helps to develop positive social relationships and boosts your confidence. 

Here are some small steps that you can take towards being an active person:

• You can compliment someone if you genuinely appreciate them.
• You can take the charge of setting up your own ventures like talking yourself into getting enrolled in a coaching center, a course, or any classes rather than letting your parents do it.
• You can actively ask questions to seek information from shopkeepers, teachers, or anyone for that matter of fact, never be shy of asking questions.
• You can engage in a small conversation with people while you’re traveling in the metro or on a train.

At first, you will have to put a conscious effort into talking to people and you will feel a little awkward but do it despite the awkwardness and gradually you’ll start feeling relaxed and confident while talking to anyone in general.

2. Practice, practice, practice!

“He who sweats more in training bleeds less in war.” 

Confidence is not something that can be achieved overnight. It requires devotion, hard work, patience, and perseverance. Seize every chance to practice your skill and expose yourself to discomfort, because only those who keep trying no matter how many times they hit a wall can develop unshakable self-confidence.

Practice your skill for a minimum of 20 minutes every single day and you will notice the progress yourself. Confidence comes with preparation which is nothing but planning and practicing. It allows you to free yourself from the feelings of shyness and self-consciousness. When you thoroughly prepared and know things in advance, then you'll automatically feel confident.

3. Practice Affirmations:

Rip out all the negative feelings and replace them with affirmations. They are positive sentences that are to be repeated several times and help you to reduce anxiety and self-sabotaging thoughts or negative thoughts.

Affirmations can be self-made or they can include quotes, basically, any statement that hits you at a deeper level and make you feel empowered. It is a very effective tool to boost self-esteem and self-love.

Some of my personal favorite affirmations are:

• I’m confident and prepared.
• I’m worthy and deserving.
• I am ready for any obstacle that comes my way.
• I wake up with determination and go to bed with satisfaction.
• I’m more than what I appear to be.

You can sit in a secluded place, close your eyes just for five minutes and repeat these statements, and feel as if it is true. Try to compel each nerve and fiber of your body that whatever you are saying is nothing but true, you have to feel it emotionally and physically and I bet you’ll feel empowered after completing your session, given you practice it properly. 

You can write your affirmations, put it as your wallpaper, write it on a sticky note and paste it in your bedroom or a place you frequently visit which triggers positivity and uplift you each time you read it!

4. Write down your achievements:

We always tend to neglect our small achievements and complain of being stagnant in our lives, we fail to notice that every single day we achieve something or the other. Achievements can be small or big, but they still are achievements, right?

Achievements can be as simple as:

• Getting through a tough and tiring day.
• Listening to someone’s problems and trying to encourage them.
• Avoiding junk food even when you feel the urge to consume it.
• Identifying a problem and solving it.
• Coming up with an idea which improved your venture.
• Taking out just a couple of minutes to brush your teeth before you sleep.
• Being complimented by your colleague. 
• Forcing yourself to endure the pain you feel while working out.
• Making your bed.
• Analyzing something new and different.

All these seem to be small but when we actually put an effort to realize and especially write them, they uplift your life condition and brightens up your mood immediately. You feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction which in turn makes you think about how far you’ve come and how you’ve evolved and improved over time. It will fill your soul and will make you feel confident and assertive.

So at night just before going to sleep, think or preferably write three things you achieved that day.

5. Whatever happens, it is going to be okay:

We often think too much before doing anything but life is not to be lived this way where we are caught in the trap of self-doubt, fear of embarrassment, and judgment. 

Just think what can be the worst-case scenario if you could not speak the right thing or if you could not respond in a way you expected yourself to. Do not carry the burden to look cool and always speak the right thing on your shoulders, just think that whatever happens, it is going to be fine.

Once you hardwire this belief you will feel even more confident and you’ll be able, to tell the truth even if it makes you feel uncomfortable because you know that whatever happens, it is going to be okay. You’ll be internally confident of yourself and will not be scared of judgments. It is found in many studies that people assume they are constantly being judged but in reality, people don’t have enough time to watch all of your moves, so don’t get caught in the delusion that everyone is judging you. So do your thing, just be the real you and confidence will automatically follow you!

CONFIDENCE IS NOT “WHAT IF THEY DON’T LIKE ME”, “I’LL BE FINE EVEN IF THEY DON’T.”

Don’t think too much and most importantly try to build a positive and healthy relationship with yourself and the people around you, you’ll automatically feel fulfilled and confident!

Here are some of my personal favorite videos that talks about self confidence:

The 30% rule of building confident (Do check it out, its amazing!) - https://youtu.be/KmOAznOQX-g

How to build self-confidence by Sandeep Maheshwari - https://youtu.be/3gqQevdM7xM

5 secrets to boost your self-confidence - https://youtu.be/lgSPVvfsvVQ

How to be self confident without being arrogant - https://youtu.be/F4LUxpkNf7Y

Thank you for reading. Always remember that confidence is not something that naturally comes to people, it has to be developed but you have to persist and work on it every day. I hope you will build unshakable self-confidence once you consciously implement these points in your life.

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